Daughter Gets Really Honest with Her Mom for the First Time

Daughter Gets Really Honest with Her Mom for the First Time


– Doctor Judy was just
backstage with Kayla trying to break down her walls to find out what she needs from her mother. How did it make you feel?
– [Kayla] Very well, yes. – [Vivica] Very good?
– Mm-hmm – [Dr. Judy] Can you
tell your mom right now? What we talked about? – Hmm. Um. Just that I don’t blame
you for everything, I know that how I am now
is not 100% your fault. But I do need you to
look at the things that we’ve gone through together
and the things that you may have said to me
or may have done that may contribute to today. You know how they may have gotten me here and it’s not something that’s
just gonna, just get over. I mean, you’re definitely
not the only cause, but I need you to know
that there is some pain that I’m gonna live with for
probably a really long time. (applause) Sometimes I feel like maybe, maybe you won’t be able
to take the things that, like when I got real honest with you, it put us here. And
that’s maybe a good thing. But that was real level honesty, and that’s really scary,
and that was the first time that I’ve done that. It upsets me so much when
my friends talk about, “My mom is my rock. She’s my everything. I don’t know what I’d do without her.” And I want to feel that way too. – [Dr. Judy] Hm. Okay. – [Vivica] So Layna can I say, we commend you for getting sober, and turning your life around. But how you were able to work on yourself, and get better, it’s going to take time
for your relationship with your daughter to get better. Just you being better isn’t
going to make the years that she suffered through your drug abuse. That’s not going to just (snaps). You’ve got to rebuild that trust. – [Mother] Yeah – You can’t just say, “Well I’m better, so she should be better.” It’s going to take her time. She’s got scars that maybe you don’t even know how deep the scars went. That may just may have been so scary, like she was wrining
her hands, “Oh my god, Oh god. I’m so sorry I’m
going to get her in trouble.” – [Mother] Hm. – And she shouldn’t have to
live like that if you honestly want her to get better. – [Mother] Yeah.
– To not be afraid to say, “Hey mom, I’m still kind
of hurting.” It’s okay. – I’ll do what I can to make it better. That’s all I can do.

One thought on “Daughter Gets Really Honest with Her Mom for the First Time

  • Mom has to take responsibility and never point the finger. Just help, support and encourage her through the process. They need ongoing family and individual counseling.

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